If there were a list of words I would use to describe myself, self-reliant would certainly be on it. While I pride myself on being able to take care of many things myself, it is also a product of my deep aversion to asking people for assistance. I can’t stand it, and I’m always worried about being a burden or bother to someone else.
I think my mantra since having my daughter in February of 2011 has been “I’ll take care of it.” There’s always a unique transition when someone chooses to stay home with their child rather than return to working outside of the home. For me the transition came with my own belief that I should be taking care of everything at home, and I should try to save money whenever I could. You name it around our farm, I made myself responsible. When all that made me very busy but not fulfilled, I also started blogging for myself and others, building my husband’s website, and increasing my crafting. Then, we needed a bookkeeper. You can guess what I thought. ”I’ll take care of it.”
But this isn’t a “woe is me” post. This is a “lesson learned” post. I got tired. I got stressed. I got no sleep. I got grouchy and resentful. It was clearly time to look for help.
I found a daycare that my daughter will be attending twice a week for 3 hours a day starting mid-October. This may even increase to 3 days a week! We are hiring a bookkeeper, and I couldn’t be more relieved. I’m asking people for help more often and finding resources for the things I need to do.
My name is Carrie Anne, and I’m a reformed Help-a-phobic.
Are you a person who hates to ask for help or do you like to do everything yourself? Are you handling it all with grace or are you on the road to burnout like I was? What are your secrets for deciding what to do yourself and what to outsource? I’d love to know your thoughts as this is new territory for me.